You know the drill, there’s a new guy in your life and you’re pretty excited. You talk daily, you hang out several times a week, you think about this person all day. You have all kinds of thoughts going through your head, is he the “One”, will our babies be cute, what colors will I pick for the wedding, and all kinds of other crazy thoughts. To put it simply, you’re falling for this person.

However, in the course of all the time you’re spending with each other their true personality is being revealed more with the passing of each day. This, of course, is a good thing. I mean really…you have already deemed dude as the “One”; so it only makes sense that you get to know him very well. Right? Right.

The problem is that some of the things that are being revealed are not so great. You make a mental note of each of these items. You justify the behavior and decide that it’s not really that bad. Why do we do this?

In years past I would come up for all kinds of reasons as to why whatever guy it was at the time had these undesirable traits. I would always find a way to make it ok. Thankfully, those days are few and far between now. I’m no longer willing to just accept any ole bullshizzie. The other day I was talking to this guy who was very serious in wanting to know what I had been doing earlier that I could not take his call. I was surprised. My response, as I looked and my hand to confirm that I had not gotten married overnight, was “are you serious”? He was. Interesting!

I had to politely inform him that I did not owe him any explanations and I left it as that.

WARNING WARNING WARNING!!! This dude might be a control freak.

What warning signs have you seen and ignored?