Yesterday was the second book club meeting, as I am typing this I realize we still do not have a name. We’ll have to work on that for the next meeting. But at any rate, the book we discussed was “Act like a Lady, Think like a Man,” by comedian Steve Harvey. The conversation was lively and the opinions were across the board. Some thought as a man on his third wife, Steve is the last person anyone should look to for advice. Others took the book to be pure entertainment. And of course there were people in the middle, those who recognized that while Steve is clearly not an expert on relationships, he is a man who can tell women what men think.

At some point during the conversation the thought of having a list was brought up. In Steve’s book he talks about the need to be very upfront with what’s on your list. The thought being the man will either be on board with your requirements, in which case he’ll stick around. Or he won’t, which of course would mean that he’s not a keeper.

So the question is what’s on my list? I suppose I’ve always had a list of sorts, I’m not sure that I’ve always stuck to the list. So here is the list of qualities (in no particular order) that I want in my mate along with a few expectations.

1. Tall
2. Handsome
3. Financially responsible
4. Outgoing
5. Intelligent
6. Ambitious
7. Kind
8. Generous
9. Funny
10. Secure in himself
11. Supportive
12. Chivalrous
13. Respectful