The biggest step in my journey will be setting myself free. Free from what you ask? Free from everything. Free from my preconceived notions, free from excuses, free from relationships that are going no where, free from the concern of the opinions of others.

I recently had a conversation with a friend who is a just a bit older than me who single. She wants to be married with children. However, because of all of her notions and concerns she has wasted a lot of time and passed over some great men. The conversation was very eye opening. She basically told me to not allow myself to prevent me from finding what I want; a happy loving and committed relationship.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve totally written people off for one reason or another. He’s too short, too fat, not cute enough, not smart enough, and doesn’t make enough money. They’re either too much of something or not enough of something else. In the grand scheme of things, are these things important?

Then there are the excuses. There is always work, committee meetings, girlfriends, and countless other reason why I have not had the time to meet anyone new. The reality is, it’s just easier to not be bothered with meeting new people. There is all the getting to know you questions…blah, blah, blah. Often it seems easier to hold onto the people from the past. Even though the relationships have continued with no real traction, you stick around anyway.

There are probably some really great guys out there that are only 5’9″ who would worship me.